As I sit at a court watching a bunch of really unskilled younger
teams play, I started thinking about the hierarchy of our game.
Coaches often cite the fact that only one team can win their
last match of the season or the tournament for each division as a consolation
for their players. My contrarian mind then turns to the other end of the
spectrum. There must be a team that never won during that season: the team that
brings up the rear.
This team hasn’t won a set, let alone a match. They go
through an entire season without ever having a glimpse of the promise land. I
see them as being not very athletic, not very tall, and are beginners working
really hard at doing something that they don’t know how to do very well. Yet I
see them persevering, staring at adversity in the face and trying their best at
something that they are not very good doing. And yet they persevere.
I see them huddling after every point, arms around each
other, eyes locked on each other as I try to teach my players to do and they
huddle tightly, almost desperately, like their lives depend on it. It must be
very difficult and mentally draining. And yet they persevere.
I think of the quiet rides home from tournaments: kids
locking their lips shut, choosing to not respond to well-meaning parents,
fighting their own frustrations in their heads. I see them talking to their
frustrated team mates in hushed tones and rack their brains for the solution.
They manage to survive the post-match entreaties of their coaches, yet another
loss, yet another talk about rainbows and unicorns or yet another talk about
the doom and gloom of failure. And yet they persevere.
I think about what it must take to keep going practice after
practice, doing the same things that never seem to click, doing the drills that
seem to make your team worse than better, scrimmaging against the worst teams
in your club because your coach is trying to give you a reason to keep
fighting. And yet they persevere.
Time after time, I see them shanking passes, get called for unskilled
touches on the ball, hit the ball way out or forcefully into the net. I see
them lose points in bucketful and yet I also see them smile and laugh and pat
each other on their backs, telling each other to work harder, to believe, to do
every lesson their dispirited coach tries earnestly to teach them. I marvel at
their hope, their faith, and their trust in this person who must have expressed
his or her frustration multiple times in fits of exasperation and despair. And yet
they persevere.
I don’t know the answer. I have no empirical evidence to say
definitively that this team comes out of the trials and tribulations of such a
season triumphant in their spirit and stronger in their convictions.
I hope
that they do.
1 comment:
Pete - my first high school coaching was in ice hockey....a new school opened and they had a boys team and needed a coach. I joined two other college friends, one the Bio teacher at the school, and we formed a team.
After tryouts, we knew one thing...that only one kid on the team had ever skated. He was originally from Canada, surprise. All the other 25 players had never put on skates.
We went 0-21 that season...but nobody other than the seniors stopped playing. By the second season we were not being beat 15-0 but more like 4-1....and at the end, we won our first match. That every player kept skating/learning and being on the team was a lesson I still carry in that "never be a child's last coach" mantra....
Thanks for the reminder of my roots.
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